As always mom guilt kicked in and I felt terrible about having to cancel her party after all her planning.
Happy Tuesday Britzies, today's storytime is about my little birthday diva and her happy ending. Happy reading!
After my daughter's second birthday I thought that for the years going forward I would include her in the party planning since it is her special day after all. I loved the idea of just getting her input and I loved that she was so keen on planning it with me. For her third birthday she wanted to have a ballerina-themed party and she planned everything, and I mean everything from the color of balloons to the party packs, the cake, the guest list, and the outfit that she wanted, I mean she knew exactly what she wanted. During this time I allowed her to continue planning it all as I was still under the impression that by the time her birthday came around again covid would be a thing of the past. Unfortunately, that was not the case, at the time we also wanted to start saving for a relocation because my husband was applying for a job that would require us to move to KZN so it only made sense to cancel the party, as always mom guilt kicked in and I felt terrible about having to cancel her party after all her planning. We then decided to have a little something at her favorite restaurant with just a few people just so that she could still have a great time and enjoy her special day.
During all this planning I did not inform my daughter that we would be canceling her party instead I just showed her pictures of the decor that would be on the table at her birthday party at the restaurant after everything was planned, my daughter's response was, "But mom I didn't ask for this!, I wanted a ballerina party" My first reaction was how dare this ungrateful almost three year old say that to me! what a little brat (I didn't say that to her though but I had a lot to say about it to my husband haha).
Once I was over it I realized that I was wrong. My daughter was so excited about planning her special day and she thought that she was going to have a ballerina party at no point did I take the time to explain to her why the plans had changed or that we were changing the plans to something new. I guess we sometimes forget that our children are people too and if that had been me I would have been just as upset and disappointed.
I then realized that I needed to sit her down and explain to her why her party plans were being changed. I also explained to her that we still wanted to do something special and that was why we were going to have her party at her favorite restaurant. Once she understood this she was excited again even more so when I told her she would still get her ballerina cake. I guess sometimes I forget how mature she is for such a little person and that sometimes just taking the time to explain things to her makes a world of a difference
PS. She ended up having not one but two little parties and she had the best time. Happy baby and happy mamma!
Much love my Britzie’s XOXO
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