Having to deal with questions like … Why are you getting married so young? It’s all happening way too fast!
Hey my Britzie's since it is wedding season again I thought I'd share some of the views that I received before my big day and for those of you who are about to get married that are currently dealing with everyone's thoughts and opinions hang in there you've got this. I hope you all enjoy it.
Oh, the pre-wedding journey can be one strange ride. As if planning the perfect day is not stressful enough you will always get the handful of people that would like to add their not so positive opinions to it all. I remember the look of utter horror on some people’s faces when they found out that I was getting married (it was pretty much like people finding out that Trump won the election all over again)
and then having to deal with questions like … Why are you getting married so young? It’s all happening way too fast! Are you pregnant? (I actually think that I’m at a good age to get married but according to the new norm I’m getting a little ahead of myself). People would constantly tell me that I have my whole life ahead of me and that I’d miss out on so many things, why would I want to rush into a marriage…My question to this was why not?.
Do people really think that you do not give it any thought? Or that you do not over-analyze every aspect of your decision?. I mean as in love as one can be, let's be honest marriage is a huge leap. I know I asked myself all these questions and more but I always came to the same conclusion. I found the love of my life, the man that I want to build a life with, the man who I want to see the world with. I want to share my life with this person…Well, that’s how I look at it but there are many that disagree with me and this got me thinking….
Why do people think that getting married means that you don’t get to experience life to the fullest? Is it because relationships don’t hold the same value as before? Is it because people need an easy way out when things get bad? Or is it simply because this new generation is all about wasting his/her time and having multiple relationships?… Could it be that people think marrying young means settling?. I can understand that some feel that it is best to put off marriage until you have all your ducks in a row but let’s be realistic life will constantly throw curveballs at you and getting your ducks in a row is not as easy and straightforward as it seems. People say that love has no age limit but marriage does?
Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t think marriage is a walk in the park either. I believe that as long as we both willing to work towards getting through the tough times, growing together and supporting one another we will be just fine but at the same time, I feel that it is unfair that we get told that our marriage is more likely to fail because we are so young. Are older couples not getting divorced? I guess people forget that age does not define your relationship. All couples have challenges!
I cannot change anyone’s perception of marriage but I should not have to defend my relationship either. Because there is no timeline that dictates “sow your oats here,” “discover yourself here,” “reach this salary here,” “get married here” — those sorts of deadlines are all unpredictable and, anyway, love doesn’t care about our plans. Sometimes the real deal comes along a little sooner than expected. And if that happens, we should all be open to it.
Much love my Britzie’s XOXO
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